ATU Suggested Parent Reading List
Youre on Your Own but Im, Here if You Need Me by Marjorie Savage
Paperback: 352 pages
Publisher: Fireside (May 5, 2009)
* From Publishers Weekly Savage, who has worked with parents and students at the University of Minnesota for a decade (she's now the director of its parent-liaison program), addresses the sometimes tough issues facing parents and their college-age kids, as the latter seek independence (but still rely on counsel from Mom and Dad) and the former try to figure out just how involved they should be in Jr.'s undergraduate experience. In 12 chapters that span the summer before college, the culture shock of school (and the corresponding empty-nest shake-up for parents), the freshman 15, course loads, extracurricular activities, risky or defiant behaviors and life beyond the BA, Savage gives parents clear and seasoned advice-and offers tips for students as well. Illustrating her points through anecdotes, charts and bullet-pointed lists, she crafts a readable, if sometimes very commonsensical, guide to establishing the right level of parental involvement. For nervous parents, this should be a reassuring and helpful book.
The Naked Roommate, and 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College by Harlan Cohen.
In college, there's a surprise around every corner...but that doesn't mean you can't be prepared! From sharing a bathroom with 40 strangers to sharing lecture notes, The Naked Roommate is your behind-the-scenes look at EVERYTHING you need to know about college (but never knew you needed to know). This essential guide is packed with expert advice on everything from managing money and a job to managing stress and a full class load --plus hilarious, outrageous and telling stories from students on over 100 college campuses. Learn about dorm dos, don'ts and dramas, and how to deal with lying, noisy or nasty roommates (and their unwelcome guests). Don't forget dating and friend issues? Hanging out with the right kind of people will save you a lot of trouble! The Naked Roommate is a must-have for all college students. Don't leave your parents home without it! "If The Naked Roommate existed when I went to college, I would have devoured every page before I stepped foot on campus." -Linda J. Sax, Associate Director of the Higher Education Research Institute and Director of the CIRP Freshman Survey
Letting Go: A Parents Guide to Todays College Experience by Madge Lawrence Treeger & Karin Levin Coburn.
Published Date: April 2003
* Synopsis:This bestselling guide, read by hundreds of thousands of parents over the past decade, is now better than ever, newly revised and completely updated. Based on real-life experience and recommended by colleges and universities around the country, Letting Go offers compassionate, practical, and up-to-the-minute information to help parents with the emotional and social changes of the college years. When should parents encourage independence? When should they intervene? What issues of identity and intimacy await students? What are normal feelings of disorientation and loneliness for students-and for parents? What is different about today's college environment? What new concerns about safety, health and wellness, and stress will affect incoming classes? These important issues and more are addressed with wise advice and time-tested counsel in Letting Go -- a realistic and reassuring source for meeting the challenges ahead, from the senior year in high school through college graduation.
Ill Miss You Too: An off to college guide for Parents and Students: What Will Change, What Will Not, and How Well Stay Connected by Margo E. Woodacre & Steffany Bane.
*From Publishers Weekly Woodacre, a former Delaware state senator, and her daughter, Bane, now an advertising copywriter, offer the perspectives of a doting mother and a high-achieving daughter on milestones beginning with the senior year in high school and ending with acclimating to life post-graduation. Though most of the advice is common sense (communication and negotiation are the threads that hold together the book) and the dueling authors share a love of exclamation points and seem to be contestants in a congeniality contest, parents having a hard time understanding what's going on inside their college student child's head or wanting reassurance that their feelings of loneliness, worry and dread aren't unique would do well to pick up this perky book.
Paperback: 224 pages
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.; 1 edition (March 1, 2006)
Don't Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money by Helen E. Johnson & Christine Schelas-Miller.
Amazon.com Review Parenting a college-bound student is a tricky business--combining your emotional and financial support with your child's newfound independence can seem nearly impossible. The authors of Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money are all too familiar with these difficulties and have created a practical guide that addresses specific situations and provides effective guidelines for changing the parent-child relationship. Topics are addressed frankly, and many parents may have trouble reading the sections concerning controversial subjects such as drug and alcohol use, birth control, homosexuality, and changes in religious and political beliefs. The emphasis here is not on changing your kid's mind about any of these things, but rather how parents can approach these sensitive topics while maintaining a positive and honest relationship. Most pages contain small text boxes highlighting what's on your mind and what's on your child's mind, as well as practical lists suggesting what to do and what to avoid, and these can be extremely helpful as a quick reference when faced with a sudden announcement from your student who's decided to change majors, stop living in the dorm, or study abroad.
Im Still Your Mother: How to Get Along with Your Grown-up Children for the Rest of Your Life by Jane Adams.
Amazon.com Review You can strengthen your family bonds without getting tangled in them. Jane Adams tells you how to handle the ongoing challenges of post-parenthood in this witty, commonsense guide to creating a healthy relationship with your grown children, whether you're an empty-nester or a "boomerang parent" with children and grandchildren living with you. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Paperback: 240 pages
Publisher: iUniverse, Inc (June 21, 2001)
When Your Kid Goes to College: A Parents Survival Guide by Carol Barkin.
Published Date: April 1999
Almost Grown: Launching Your Child from High School to College by Patricia Pasick.