ATU Suggested Parent Reading List

 

Youre on Your Own but Im, Here if You Need Me by Marjorie Savage

You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me): Mentoring Your Child During the College Years

Paperback: 352 pages

Publisher: Fireside (May 5, 2009)

Language: English

ISBN-10: 1416596070

ISBN-13: 978-1416596073

* From Publishers Weekly Savage, who has worked with parents and students at the University of Minnesota for a decade (she's now the director of its parent-liaison program), addresses the sometimes tough issues facing parents and their college-age kids, as the latter seek independence (but still rely on counsel from Mom and Dad) and the former try to figure out just how involved they should be in Jr.'s undergraduate experience. In 12 chapters that span the summer before college, the culture shock of school (and the corresponding empty-nest shake-up for parents), the freshman 15, course loads, extracurricular activities, risky or defiant behaviors and life beyond the BA, Savage gives parents clear and seasoned advice-and offers tips for students as well. Illustrating her points through anecdotes, charts and bullet-pointed lists, she crafts a readable, if sometimes very commonsensical, guide to establishing the right level of parental involvement. For nervous parents, this should be a reassuring and helpful book.

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The Naked Roommate, and 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College by Harlan Cohen.

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Book overview

In college, there's a surprise around every corner...but that doesn't mean you can't be prepared! From sharing a bathroom with 40 strangers to sharing lecture notes, The Naked Roommate is your behind-the-scenes look at EVERYTHING you need to know about college (but never knew you needed to know). This essential guide is packed with expert advice on everything from managing money and a job to managing stress and a full class load --plus hilarious, outrageous and telling stories from students on over 100 college campuses. Learn about dorm dos, don'ts and dramas, and how to deal with lying, noisy or nasty roommates (and their unwelcome guests). Don't forget dating and friend issues? Hanging out with the right kind of people will save you a lot of trouble! The Naked Roommate is a must-have for all college students. Don't leave your parents home without it! "If The Naked Roommate existed when I went to college, I would have devoured every page before I stepped foot on campus." -Linda J. Sax, Associate Director of the Higher Education Research Institute and Director of the CIRP Freshman Survey

The Naked Roommate: And 107 Other Issues You Might Run Into in College By Harlan Cohen Sourcebooks, $14.95 400 pages, ISBN 1402203373 ...

Letting Go: A Parents Guide to Todays College Experience by Madge Lawrence Treeger & Karin Levin Coburn.

 

 Letting Go (English)

ISBN: 9780060521264

As low as $4.98 from Amazon.com Marketplace

Publisher: Quill

Format: Paperback

Published Date: April 2003

MSRP: $14.95

* Synopsis:This bestselling guide, read by hundreds of thousands of parents over the past decade, is now better than ever, newly revised and completely updated. Based on real-life experience and recommended by colleges and universities around the country, Letting Go offers compassionate, practical, and up-to-the-minute information to help parents with the emotional and social changes of the college years. When should parents encourage independence? When should they intervene? What issues of identity and intimacy await students? What are normal feelings of disorientation and loneliness for students-and for parents? What is different about today's college environment? What new concerns about safety, health and wellness, and stress will affect incoming classes? These important issues and more are addressed with wise advice and time-tested counsel in Letting Go -- a realistic and reassuring source for meeting the challenges ahead, from the senior year in high school through college graduation.

 

Ill Miss You Too: An off to college guide for Parents and Students: What Will Change, What Will Not, and How Well Stay Connected by Margo E. Woodacre & Steffany Bane.

I'll Miss You Too: An Off-to-College Guide for Parents and Students

 

*From Publishers Weekly Woodacre, a former Delaware state senator, and her daughter, Bane, now an advertising copywriter, offer the perspectives of a doting mother and a high-achieving daughter on milestones beginning with the senior year in high school and ending with acclimating to life post-graduation. Though most of the advice is common sense (communication and negotiation are the threads that hold together the book) and the dueling authors share a love of exclamation points and seem to be contestants in a congeniality contest, parents having a hard time understanding what's going on inside their college student child's head or wanting reassurance that their feelings of loneliness, worry and dread aren't unique would do well to pick up this perky book.

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Paperback: 224 pages

Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.; 1 edition (March 1, 2006)

Language: English

ISBN-10: 1402206410

ISBN-13: 978-1402206412

 

Don't Tell Me What To Do, Just Send Money by Helen E. Johnson & Christine Schelas-Miller.

Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money: The Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years

Amazon.com Review Parenting a college-bound student is a tricky business--combining your emotional and financial support with your child's newfound independence can seem nearly impossible. The authors of Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money are all too familiar with these difficulties and have created a practical guide that addresses specific situations and provides effective guidelines for changing the parent-child relationship. Topics are addressed frankly, and many parents may have trouble reading the sections concerning controversial subjects such as drug and alcohol use, birth control, homosexuality, and changes in religious and political beliefs. The emphasis here is not on changing your kid's mind about any of these things, but rather how parents can approach these sensitive topics while maintaining a positive and honest relationship. Most pages contain small text boxes highlighting what's on your mind and what's on your child's mind, as well as practical lists suggesting what to do and what to avoid, and these can be extremely helpful as a quick reference when faced with a sudden announcement from your student who's decided to change majors, stop living in the dorm, or study abroad.

With a down-to-earth tone and clear insight into the minds of both parents and college students, this is an easy-to-read book that manages to handle difficult topics without preaching or downplaying important events. Ultimately, this book aims to help parents and their nearly adult children make the transition to a new kind of relationship, ideally one that is open and mutually respectful. With careful reading and consideration, the suggestions presented will help create a handy road map to lead you through the twists and turns of parenting your college student. --Jill Lightner

Paperback: 368 pages

Publisher: Golden Guides from St. Martin's Press; 1st edition (June 17, 2000)

Language: English

ISBN-10: 0312263740

ISBN-13: 978-0312263744

 

Im Still Your Mother: How to Get Along with Your Grown-up Children for the Rest of Your Life by Jane Adams.

I'm Still Your Mother: How To Get Along With Your Grown-Up Children For The Rest Of Your Life

Amazon.com Review You can strengthen your family bonds without getting tangled in them. Jane Adams tells you how to handle the ongoing challenges of post-parenthood in this witty, commonsense guide to creating a healthy relationship with your grown children, whether you're an empty-nester or a "boomerang parent" with children and grandchildren living with you. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Paperback: 240 pages

Publisher: iUniverse, Inc (June 21, 2001)

Language: English

ISBN-10: 0595183581

ISBN-13: 978-0595183586__________________________________________________________________

When Your Kid Goes to College: A Parents Survival Guide by Carol Barkin.

When Your Kid Goes to College by Carol Barkin: Book Cover

ISBN: 9780380798407

As low as $5.48 from Alibris

Publisher: Harpercollins

Format: Paperback

Published Date: April 1999

MSRP: $13.95

Synopsis:"During the summer before he went to college, he was obnoxious; he said, 'There's a reason I'm acting this way; it will make it easier for you to have me leave.'" "When she was packing to leave, she was completely preoccupied with how many sheets and towels to take. I was thinking, 'My kid is leaving home forever, and life is taken up with minutiae.'" It's an emotional rollercoaster, a combination of missing him and feeling happy and excited for him." New Beginnings You've taught them how to do their laundry, brought them a year's supply of toothpaste and shampoo, and lectured them on the do's and don'ts of life beyond your home. The time has come for your child to leave for college -- but are you prepared to say goodbye? Written by a mother who survived the perils of packing her own child off to school, When Your Kid Goes to College provides supportive, reassuring, and helpful tips for handling this inevitable but difficult separation. Comprehensive and accessible, this practical guide includes info on: Teaching your child how to live on his own, from balancing a checkbook to dealing with a roommate. The difference between financial and emotional dependence -- and how to keep them separate. Helping your spouse, younger children, and even pets deal with the transition when your child leaves -- and when she returns. How to fill -- and even enjoy -- the hole that your child's absence leaves. Saying goodbye isn't the end of the world; it's the beginning of an exciting new one for your child-and you!

Almost Grown: Launching Your Child from High School to College by Patricia Pasick.

Almost Grown: Launching Your Child from High School to College

Product Description A time of tumult, your children's transition from high school to college can also be a time of growth. This book shows you how. Almost Grown is a guide for parents to the final years of high school and first years of college, offering intelligent counsel not only in practical issues such as developing a college search plan or handling questions of money, sex, and substance abuse, but also in the psychological issues that arise during this family transition. Writing as both psychologist and parent, Patricia Pasick tackles the key question of how mothers and fathers can foster adolescents' growth and autonomy while maintaining family connections and stability. She also explores the unexpected: the impact of the changing family on younger siblings, the benefits and frustrations of college students' returning home, the challenges and opportunities that nontraditional families face, and more. Pasick delves into another critical yet underplayed aspect of the college transition: how parents' lives change. Almost Grown guides readers through this major step in adult development and new start to adult partnerships. Almost Grown contains advice from high school and college admissions counselors across the country and, at the heart of the book, stories of personal experience from parents and adolescents who are making, or have made, the transition. About the Author Patricia Pasick, M.Ed., Ph.D., is a family therapist and clinical psychologist in Ann Arbor, Michigan, and teaches at the Fielding Institute. She is married and has two children, ages 18 and 22.